Thirty Songs

I honestly am a sucker for lists like this. I rarely actually do them but I enjoy spending a few minutes trying to think of what fits in each line.

I’m turning 37 in a few hours as I’m writing this. I’m in bed, Seinfeld blasting in the background while my boyfriend is playing with the Switch he got me last year for my birthday. Currently ignoring messages coming in – every year, this wave of notifications is expected and I always want to reply to every single one of them.

Anyway, was browsing through my Twitter and I saw Christian Finnegan doing this, and he deleted the “day” part of this quote challenge unquote.

Let’s dive in.

Day 01: Your favorite song
Jewel, You Were Meant for me. It came out in 1996 and is the longest relationship I’ve ever had. I’m still very much in love with this song.

Day 02: Your least favorite song
Stupid question. Next.

Day 03: A song that makes you happy
I’m almost ashamed to admit this but Cut to the Feeling, Carly Rae Jepsen. It’s impossible not to smile listening to it.

Day 04: A song that makes you sad
Oh crap, where do I begin? I Can’t Make you Love me, Bonnie Raitt is a real tear-jerker. Little Things by Lily Allen. Paramore’s The Only Exception. I have a Spotify playlist called “Break Down” filled with songs to cry to.

Day 05: A song that reminds you of someone
Someone what? I mean, Candle in the Wind reminds me of Princess Di. This item is too broad.

Day 06: A song that reminds of you of somewhere
Same with this one. Too broad. Though any song by Metric reminds me of Paris. I saw them there, in Bataclan, a month before it was in international news because of a terrorist attack. Bananas, no?

Day 07: A song that reminds you of a certain event
Garbage’s first album, Kings Theater in Brooklyn. I saw them live for the album’s twentieth anniversary and I still revel in it.

Day 08: A song that you know all the words to
Obviously, You Were Meant for Me. But honestly, most Madonna songs.

Day 09: A song that you can dance to
Crazy in Love, Beyonce. Who doesn’t dance to that?

Day 10: A song that makes you fall asleep
Sara Bareilles, Manhattan.

Day 11: A song from your favorite band
Linger, The Cranberries. Because I’m in too deep…

Day 12: A song from a band you hate
I don’t hate Train, I’m just not fond of them. But I do like Drops of Jupiter.

Day 13: A song that is a guilty pleasure
Kanye, and a bunch of folks – Monster. I REALLY like the Minaj part. And I’m almost sure my boyfriend hates it when I start singing along.
“First thing’s first – I eat your brain, then imma start rocking gold teeth and fangs, ‘coz that’s what a motherfucking monster do…”

Day 14: A song that no one would expect you to love
Rack City, Tyga. That song is just good.

Day 15: A song that describes you
I’m kinda proud of introducing this song to my dad: Unwell, Matchbox 20.
It really is a song that describes Ken Maes.

Day 16: A song that you used to love but now hate
P!nk, Just Like a Pill. Used to listen to it a lot, and looking back, I don’t know why I listened to it at all.

Day 17: A song that you hear often on the radio
Thats a head scratcher because I don’t listen much to the radio anymore. BUT, I do hear these artists that I guess are popular (?) and I wonder why: Shawn Mendez, Charlie Puth, Cameron Dallas. Those kinds of folks weird me out.

Day 18: A song that you wish you heard on the radio
Any song by Metric. I saw them in The Bowery and I remember Emily Haines talking about how they’re in a weird spot to be on radio. Like they’re too small for radio, but too big to be ignored.

Day 19: A song from your favorite album
Melodrama, Lorde – Hard Feelings/Loveless.

Day 20: A song that you listen to when you’re angry
Paula Cole – Throwing Stones.

Day 21: A song that you listen to when you’re happy
Bang Bang – Jessie J and company.

Day 22: A song that you listen to when you’re sad
Anything by Damien Rice.

Day 23: A song that you want to play at your wedding
Paramore, Still Into You.
“I should be over all the butterflies but I’m into you, I’m into you. And even baby our worst nights, I’m into you, I’m into you.”

Day 24: A song that you want to play at your funeral
Ooooh… good one. I have to think about this one. Hmmm…
If I Die Young by Band Perry? But that sailed, I’m old haha!
Maybe Landslide, Fleetwood Mac?

Day 25: A song that makes you laugh
Currently, Dancing by Kylie Minogue.

Day 26: A song that you can play on an instrument
I used to play In the Mood in the piano. Feels very boogie woogie.

Day 27: A song that you wish you could play
Both Sides Now, Joni Mitchell.

Day 28: A song that makes you feel guilty
Guilty of what? I guess I kinda feel guilty about liking Taylor Swift songs.

Day 29: A song from your childhood
I don’t have a copy anymore, but I recall my mom recorded my little ass singing The Bangles’ Eternal Flame.

Day 30: Your favorite song at this time last year
Thirty-One Today, Aimee Man. I was turning 36.



I got up at seven in the morning, an hour after my intended wake up time, grabbed my phone and went to the bathroom. I turned on the shower to jump start the hot water, sat on the shitter and checked my Facebook feed. When the water was hot enough to fog up my bathroom mirrors, I turned on Spotify on my phone, searched for the Spring Awakening soundtrack and hit Play. I did a quick look at my PayPal account to confirm I did transfer funds to my friend Harry who got us Spring Awakening tickets for the day before. I was obviously still riding a musical high from the Sunday matinee.

I woke up Andy as I was choosing which shirt to wear and picking up socks and underwear from the bedroom. I turned on the kitchen lights and dimmed the bedroom lights using my phone and then checked what the weather is going to be like for the day. An alert on my phone showed some train issues on the 7, so I begrudgingly decided to switch to a bus when I reach Queensboro.

The commute to work was uneventful. Listened to a few YouTube clips, continued on with Spotify. My iPad’s podcast app has been shitty lately, on my out of the door as I was refreshing my podcasts, it froze and rebooted – so I switched to my phone in the mean as it loaded, and it usually takes a while.

I got off on Greenpoint and Manhattan Avenues, visited a 7-Eleven. I showed my app that tracks how often I buy coffee – on the seventh visit, you get a free cup and I’m three stars away.

Despite the cold, I stepped out for lunch and went to my usual Thai spot. On my way back to the office, passed by KeyFood and tried using my phone to pay for my purchases. Worked like a charm.

I’m hours away from six o’clock, but I already know I’m going to need hot coffee on my way home. Starbucks has this app that has a way of ordering ahead of time, that way you show up at a Starbucks, skip the line and pick up your coffee. I’ll check my phone and check waiting times for a bus to Queensboro Plaza, or a train to Court Square – and depending on how long the wait it, I may also consider to use Uber and have a car pick me up and take me home without having to pull out my wallet to pay for my ride.

I’ve said it before and I’ll probably continue to surprise myself every now and then – but technology is amazing. I feel like we are living in the future. If I wasn’t so chicken shit, I can probably leave all my bank and credit cards, and cash home and go head out just armed with my phone and my Metrocard.


I had my share of concerts the past year. I have a rather simple mind – if I like the artist, I’d go.

The year started well when my best friend Ryan took me to a Lea Salonga concert for my birthday. We saw her many times before in Cafe Carlyle, and during her return in Les Miserables as Fantine. Lea never lets me down – and there’s not much frills in her shows, just her singing and talking. No dance productions, no light shows. I ended the year seeing Lea again in Allegiance. It was my gift for mom for her birthday, and she just wanted to see Lea live. True to form, mom’s first words when Lea came out on stage was “Tumaba si Lea (Lea has gone fat)”. Lea did a few dances too, which I myself was surprised. After a dance about playing baseball, Lea and the company did a fake baseball throw, and then my mom told me “Tamo, hingal na si Lea eh (Look at that, Lea is breathing heavily)”.

My friend Colter introduced me to The Mowgli’s months before he and his now husband decided to go back to Arizona. He made me search them in Spotify and I was surprised when I enjoyed the positive vibes they give off. For the most part, I enjoy listening to singer-songwriters who sing about broken hearts. I got us tickets to see them in The Bowery and fell in love with band. There are some bands and artists that you just have to see live and The Mowgli’s is one of them.


I saw Pentatonix twice this year, and also once late 2014. I saw Imagine Dragons in Barcaly’s. Saw Jay Brannan again in Joe’s Pub. I was also invited to join by the same folk I go with to see Pentatonix to see Ellie Goulding.

But my big three, plus one bonus, didn’t happen until towards the end of the year. And I know they are my “big” ones because I hardly have any pictures of these concerts – I paid way too much attention to singing along, dancing along, or just plain staring at the stage while occasionally grabbing my boyfriend’s hand and crushing it.

I saw Metric twice in 2015. Once when they opened for Imagine Dragons. But the second time was more special because I distinctly remember receiving their e-mail about starting a European tour for the new album, checking the dates, and giving off a quiet yelp when I saw that they will perform in Paris exactly on the same day I fly to France. I basically lost my shit and just bought the tickets without asking for my boyfriend’s approval. To make it more exciting, when we got to the venue, we were told that we have to pick up our tickets from some music store chain, and the closest one was half an hour away via subway. I had no problem playing the I’m-a-stupid-American card and practically begged to see a venue manager, clutching on to my e-mail, the credit card I used to make my ticket purchase and my passport. Some guy on a walkie talkie let us in and I saw relief in my boyfriend’s eyes. I really think he thought I was going to go postal.

On a sad note, less than a month after, the very same venue we saw Metric, Le Bataclan, was one of the sites terrorists attacked in November 2015.

Every year, Aimee Mann and a bunch of her friends host a Christmas show and every since I found out about it, I either forget and miss it, or hear about it too late and the event sells out. But 2015 was different, I lucked out and got tickets. And as an added bonus, Mann brought along Liz fucking Phair. I never felt so lucky.

Fun night 🙂

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But the biggest event for me for 2015 was the twentieth anniversary of Garbage’s first album. And Garbage decided to do a tour. I put on my imaginary pink feather boa, hopped on a train to Brooklyn, and just sung and danced for the next hour or so. Bow down to me.


I didn’t do much travelling for 2015, but when I did, I went all out.

Celebrated my birthday in Boston. My boyfriend Andy was there for a convention, with our friend Matt. I actually spent most of the day by myself, discovering Boston’s horrendous subway systems and great art museums. It was not the worse birthday.

I cashed in on a holiday party gift and went to the company cottage in Nantucket. Nantucket was never in the radar, but I was glad I got to spend a weekend in this former whaling island. It was gorgeous despite the bad weather.

A week after, my boyfriend and I went to Europe. First was to Paris, followed by a quick trip to London. It’s a lot to write about Paris. I find it hard to believe sometimes that I’ve been there. It was beautiful. The food was great. The people was lovely. And that tower. And that museum. It was just too much for one me. And I definitely want to go back. Same with London. We visited and stayed with family while we were in the UK. We saw the Stonehenge. I saw one of the original copies of the Magna Carta. I realized how much i really do love old cities. It’s a sentiment I feel about cities like Boston or Philadelphia. But these cities are babies compared to the centuries old cities of Paris and London.

I ended the year with a trip with my best friend for her birthday. We love going away together, and it doesn’t happen as often as I want to. This time, we went to Orlando and had silly unbridled fun in Universal Studios. I fucking rode the train to Hogwarts.

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2015 was good year. 2015 was a shitty year. Every January, I look back at the previous year and pretty much always come up to the same conclusion: It was a good year riddled with shitty moments. And my hopes is it always stays that way, instead of having a shitty year with good moments.



Tell Me the Truth – is it Love or just Paris?

I wrote this at two in the afternoon, and I probably should be working but I rushed through my usual 15-day workload down to ten days so I can have a long vacation, something that I missed this summer.

Just last week, I redeemed a trip I won from my company holiday raffle – a trip to Nantucket for two. It was a short weekend trip, it was raining and cold but it was a good break from my job. I haven’t had a break from work for pretty much the past ten months, and our payroll coordinator never fails to remind me of my eighteen vacation days unclaimed.

You can see more pictures here:

A long overdue trip is in place. There were talks of maybe going to Japan, but plans with a friend fell through which left my boyfriend and I with ten days of vacations set aside but nowhere to go. He was the one who actually suggested Paris, and I said yes without any hesitation.

So here I am, at work, could not focus on anything, anticipating the plane ride to Europe 🙂

Je suis perdu tu n’es plus dans ma rue
Cette nuit tu as disparu de ma vue

It Finally Happened – We Parted Ways

My boyfriend Andy and I have been together for over seven years now. We’ve been living together for almost a year and we are in heavy talks about getting a puppy. We have gone through a bunch of arguments like most people in long term relationships. I often joke about him hitting me one of these days, and I probably deserve it if that ever happens (it won’t). And we are still together and I’m sure there will be bumps and obstacles in the future but I’d like to think both of us are committed enough to know to never let go.

That being said, be it known that it would have been easier to break up with my love than what I recently did – I let go of my BlackBerry.

It was August of 2006 when I first got a BlackBerry. It was Pearl. It was stupid. I never believed in cases to protect my phone, so I’d slip my Pearl in my pockets where it would collect lint that would get stuck in the Pearl’s button.

BlackBerry Pearl

BlackBerry Pearl

The QWERTY keyboard was also horrible. There was a very steep learning curve from your typical phone back then, when you have to press the number two three times to get to the letter C.

But it was my introduction to smart phones, and it was a good introduction. I heavily relied on e-mails then – I just moved to New York from Colorado, and from the Philippines before that, most of my contacts are easily in touch with me via e-mail.

I moved from the Pearl around the same time I met my boyfriend in 2008. We were both utilizing the BlackBerry Curve. He was probably my only BlackBerry Messenger contact I regularly talk to.

BlackBerry Curve

BlackBerry Curve

It was a great phone. Full keyboard was great! But it still had a pesky trackball but was a novel idea at first, but I had the same issue with lint getting into the trackball and getting it stuck. Fortunately, the company moved away from the trackball and moved to a trackpad. I did not use this device much for e-mail anymore though it’s e-mail push technology was still great. Facebook was existent by then and it was and still what I use to get in touch with friends who are not in the same time zone as I am.

I never left the brand. The Curve was replaced by the full touchscreen with a keyboard Bold, and even after the complete operating system overhaul, I stayed with BlackBerry and got myself a Z10 which is basically BlackBerry’s iPhone. I did miss the keyboard which is why when Passport came out, I was one of the tens if not hundreds who bought it. It was silly, huge, bulky, but I totally loved it. I even got a leather case for it that was ridiculously expensive and was handmade.

BlackBerry Bold

BlackBerry Bold

BlackBerry Z10

BlackBerry Z10

BlackBerry Passport

BlackBerry Passport

After the Passport, there were rumors that BlackBerry will be designing an Android phone. And that was the final straw for me. I stayed with these line of devices mainly for the physical keyboard and its operating system. Yes, the OS did not get much love from app developers. But I had Facebook, Twitter and a few apps here and there and I was fine with that. One of my favorite adage was BlackBerry is not a toy, it’s a tool. I did not care if I can’t play Angry Birds on my BlackBerry. I purchased an iPod specifically for the “fun” part of technology and kept my BlackBerry for more serious matters like work e-mails and a decent LinkedIn account. With BlackBerry making devices powered by Android, then might as well switch to an Android phone.

And I did. And it was rough. I remember purchasing it on a Wednesday. I remember it was a Wednesday because I have a standing Wednesday night drinks with two of my close friends. We met at Lillie’s in Union Square and had nachos and three bottles of wine. I was laughing, drinking, munching on greasy nachos but my mind was pre-occupied by the fact that on the table, was a Samsung S6 Edge phone, and not my Passport that also acts as a coaster occasionally, if not most of the times.

It’s been roughly two weeks since I made the switch. My boyfriend got the exact same model I got but he got it in black. Mine was white because between us, I;m the fucking angel. Call me silly but I mourn over this. I feel like I lost something and it is so stupid to feel this sad about it. I have said before that I know how to hold a grudge, and I guess it’s also true with regards to things I hold dear. I maybe just a sentimental fool who does not know how to let go.

Stop Calling My Name

I was walking back to the house, carrying my baby brother Marty. Earlier, I was watching my siblings play by a now dry creek. When I was younger, I remember being too scared to wander off by myself because I was always told of stories of bears and mountain lions that roam the hills. I also remember stories about duendes and water spirits, who would sit on the fence posts, luring children towards the river. I knew the kids would be fine, I just felt more comfortable watching over them as my dad and step-mom prepare dinner.

I was walking back to the house because I heard my father calling out my name. “Kiko, Kiko-man,” he said. I rounded up my little troopers, counted three little heads plus Marty in my arms. We headed back to the house, and marched up the kitchen. The kids sprawled on the living room floor, tired from running around the creek. Dad turned around and smiled. I asked what he needed. He gave me a puzzled look and asked “What do you mean?”

“You called,” I replied.

“No I didn’t,” he said, and turned back his attention on starting a fire in the old iron stove.


I had a bad habit of sleeping in on weekends. It was my second year in college, and I was still trying to get used to in my new school. I just transferred from a state university and now was in a Catholic college. The transition was hard.

My room did not get any sunlight. It used to be a huge kitchen that my mom decided to partition to have an extra room so I wouldn’t have to use the bedroom upstairs. It was the family ancestral house that Mom decided to take care of after selling our place in the city, and I was scared sleeping upstairs by myself. Silly, I know, but the house was older than me, it was where my grandfather lived and he passed away even before my mom got married to my dad. I usually imagine his ghost walking around this house, and him seeing me and wondering who I was and why was I in his room.

My room does has a window – it was just really an opening so you could get some air. The opening lead to an outside kitchen that lead to a bamboo thicket. Stories were told of how the natives would run through this area and head towards the river trying to get away from the Japanese soldiers that once occupied the town. History painted a bloody picture of the grassland behind our house. I never stepped my foot out there.

My mom has a bad habit of leaving her keys behind. She would usually go behind the house, and yell out and would ask to open the front door for her. It was a Saturday afternoon and I was napping the day away. I heard footsteps in the backyard. Footfalls on dried leaves. “Kix!” Mom yelled. “Ugh, she forgot her keys again,” I thought.

I begrudgingly got up and opened the front door. I dragged my feet back to bed. Minutes passed by. I thought Mom should have walked in by now. Maybe she shopped and she was grabbing the bags from the car. Maybe she needed help with the grocery.

I got up and walked to the front door. Mom wasn’t there.

I walked backed in and put on my shoes. I left the house and hopped on a jeepney heading towards my grandmother’s place.

Maybe she needed the company.

I Have a Confession

Been dating the same guy for over six years now and moving in together is one big issue we have talking about more seriously recently. It’s really late by “normal” standards. If we were any other couple, we’d be living together by now, either married or already on the second child, if not both. But we are taking things slow mainly because my boyfriend has issues at home he has to smooth out first and once things are okay, we can consider moving in. So basically I’m waiting on him, the ball is on his court. For now.


Ever since I moved here in New York late 2005, I’ve had the same roommate. Things are not only doing well between us, but they’re going so great that even despite getting married and having a child, we still live together. She found us the perfect place in Queens – three bedrooms, two on one side, and across is her room. We never had issues about food, money, cleanliness, noise or having people over. This is probably the best situation I could ask for, especially when I first moved here, completely broke and unemployed.
I pay for two rooms because half the year, my mom is in town. She needs to be here to keep her green card status. But the first sign of snow, she packs and bails and stay in the Philippines with my grandmother so she can stay warm. The room becomes available and if my roomie has visitors, or if her mom visits, she can use the spare room. It’s a system that works, and I really don’t want to mess with it.


When the time comes that my boyfriend is ready to move in with me, we would need to start looking for a place. Luckily, we are both employed – we can pretty much afford a place in the city. But between us, I am probably the cheap one. Even if we can afford it, I really don’t like the idea of putting all our income towards rent. It sounds stupid. Ideally, a two bedroom in Astoria or Williamsburg would be great. It’s close enough to the city. And if we decide to have kids, both our moms would be close enough to come over and baby sit, but still not too far that they would have to sleep over.
That means I would have to break this nice relationship I have with my roommate. Luckily, she knows a lot of people – she can find someone who’d want my room right away.
I’d like to think my mom would still want to keep that extra room. I honestly don’t mind paying for the rent, and it’s nice that she’ll be with people I know and trust.


So here’s the confession: once the ball is on my court, I know how ready I would be by then.